Q. Xavier


...the pursuit of substance

So here's the thing...

We are all lost.

None of us have it on straight.
Well, maybe not none. Yet, I have not met one who does.
Maybe that was the idea behind Jesus or Buddha or Mohammed .
They all had it on straight and we deified them.
We turned them into things beyond men, into gods.
When they were just trying to tell folks, . . .

Read More

November 17, 2015

The most dangerous thing we do

...people need people to be better.

a note...

This is a nuanced position, so the words may be strike you a certain way, realize that particular words in this context are not intended to shun the validity of the principled definitions they uphold. Rather they are to distinguish this assertion, as unique from the measure of the weight they contain.

I previously typed a post . . .

Read More

June 23, 2015

Cool, Calm & Collected

...physically digital things


There is this thing that is happening... It is cyclical, and we are in an age where things move faster and faster.


Here we go again.

We care that you have 1,000 or 10,000 or 100,000 followers.

We really, really, do.

We do.

Here’s the rub.

Your fans don't.

They really, really, really do not.

Your fans, do not.

Because 1,000 . . .

Read More

June 02, 2015

Belief, is.

...between truth, lies.

Belief is...

Sight unseen
Words un-backed
Deeds unsubstantiated
Things not created
There is nothing truly believable
Yet there lies belief

The stuff, the substance, that binds the here and now to the there and then.

We need belief when the world lives on being convinced.

Nothing is wrong with convincing, it is necessary and a precursor to . . .

Read More

May 19, 2015

Burn Bridges

...a note on the action of choice.

Choice and Decision

Somewhere along the way, it finally dawned on me that the known possibilities are not infinite, they are few. The human imagination can only conjure a select few iterations. A few possibilities which are further reduced by the dizzying array of selections we make per day. The bulk of these selections are mindless, yet they . . .

Read More

May 14, 2015

Can. Cannot. Can. Can't.

...students are masters because masters are students.

It occurs to me that there is a thing that happens consistently.

It is the consistency at which we learn behaviors, or our way of doing things, Method.

It is true that we don't know everything (for myself, doubly so). It is also true that the way we know how to do a thing may be, less-than-beneficial or downright incorrect.

This is an . . .

Read More

May 13, 2015

It merely occurs...

Loss | Aversion

So, here's the thing...

What are we talking about?
Oh, yes...
Loss aversion, the correlation to relationship failure and the delay of the inevitable.

Well there is a fundamental flaw in the statement/question.
You are not loss adverse about relationships.
You do not fear the person leaving you.
You do not fear losing the person.
Both . . .

Read More

April 03, 2015